I'm Back!

I'm back and ready to take on the world!

After writing my last post I became sick with a super high fever and a migraine from hell. Awesome welcome back to school present. So last week everyday was a constant battle with the thermometer and my gag reflex. I managed to keep down a piece of bread and a piece of chicken. Random I know, but I'll spare you the details on the other foods I tested. I have now pretty much established that I do not believe filtering is lying. It's for your own benefit this time anyway.

So after I conquered the fever/migraine I spent the majority of this week catching up on all the homework I couldn't lift my head to do last week. I hate college when you're behind. But after this weekend I'll be all caught up once again. You cannot imagine how hard it is to speed read through Wuthering Heights.

"My great miseries in this world have been Heathcliff's miseries, and I watched and felt each from the beginning; my great thought in living is himself. If all else perished, and he remained, I should still continue to be; and, if all else remained, and he were annihilated, the Universe would turn into a mighty stranger. I should not seem a part of it. My love for Linton is like the foliage in the woods. Time will change it, I'm well aware, as winter changes the trees--my love for Heathcliff resembles the eternal rocks beneath--a source of little visible delight, but necessary." Oh Cathrine.

I could never race through all that juicy drama. =]

Now that I have a minute (or two, or three, or thirty) I have compiled the who, what where, when, why and how's of lying that we all have collectively come up with. Really it's just the who, why and when. But you'll see for yourselves.

First off WHO we lie to:

We do not lie to friends because we value their opinions and do not want to break that trust. We use friends to see where we fit in society, judge if our problems are normal, and honestly I think we end up going to them for advice first. As soon as you lie the trust is gone and you have just disintegrated your support system.

We may end up lying to family more because we know they will always be there no matter what. Also your family can at times be more judgemental and so lying to them about something may keep the peace. But on the other hand, we do not like lying to our families all the time because we do not want to hurt them.

Then there is the occasional stranger. Strangers I think are easy targets to lie to because 1) you may never see this person again and therefore 2) their opinion isn't going to be held as high as anyone you actually know.

Next up WHEN we lie:

Sarcasm is sometimes considered a form of lying, but that can be OK if the other person(s) can tell if you are being sarcastic. White lies are the other form of lying that I see society accepting. But again there probably isn't a need to lie in the first place over something that small. Most of the time, I think we can all agree that it is NOT ok to lie.

Finally, WHY we lie:

We lie for many reasons apparently and here are what you all came up with...

• to please everyone
• to impress someone
• to cover up an ugly truth
• to make their lives sound a little more exciting (I have to admit that I used this one quite frequently. Everyone loves a good sharkbite story when you fall down ;])
• out of fear
• out of uncertainty
• for self gain
• lack of self esteem

So far in my honesty journey this is what I've found. The comments and conversations I've had have just solidified many of the things I already felt. So thanks for making me feel I'm not crazy =].

Since I missed it this week and last week here is the Truth of the Week as well:

Surprise surprise we have a Truth of the Week by an anonymous reader and their truth is that "we stereotype too easily in our society whether it be Greek life, country life, gay life, or city life." Good point Anon. Stereotyping just separates us and gives us an excuse to stay away when really the best friend of a life time could've just passed you by.

My truth this week is that band members are always the first to get made fun of/picked on in high school. Then out in the real world, as soon as a guy whips out his guitar and plays a few basic chords girls are all over him. Where did he learn his skills? Probably from band. Ya there are people who teach themselves, but chances are that if they can read or write music they learned it in band. All I have to say: Band is WAY cooler than people give it credit for.

That's it for today I guess. See ya tomorrow. I promise!
<3 Kate

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